“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us.”
― Steven Pressfield
We spend our days with the dream of being able to live one day. We spend our time without living in the moment. We promise ourselves we’ll never be afraid. Yet, we let the fear of failure hold us back. And suddenly, death knocks on the door and we realise we never got to live that one day, one moment. We realise, while dwelling with our fears, the one we had was an unlived life.
Be Afraid but Don’t Hold Back
“Don’t be afraid of being scared. To be afraid is a sign of common sense.”
― Carlos Ruiz Zafon
I remember being too afraid to get rid of the supporting wheels of my bicycle when I was a kid. My friends used to make fun of me for that matter and eventually, I was the last one to have those wheels. One fine day, I decided to get rid of them no matter what. I was afraid to my bones. I asked my mother to be by my side with the first-aid kit ready. Finally, I hit the pedal. A few moments later, my mother was sipping her coffee in the veranda with the first aid box back in the cupboard and I was fluttering on my bicycle.
That day I learnt that courage does not lie in not being afraid. It lies in facing your fears. The moment you start letting your fears have a grip on your decisions, you stop living.
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
It’s easy to spend the entire life within your comfort zone. It’s easy to not try something new. It’s easy to not dare to be different. It’s easy to be afraid and give in to your fears.
But never has monotony left a mark. Never has comfort zone yielded something beautiful. Never does the usual make us laugh. Never has an unlived life made a person happy.
Experience and Risks: Rescuers from an Unlived Life
Let experience be your library and risk be your teacher. True knowledge comes from experiences and risks. They save you from an unlived life and make you who you are.
Age Doesn’t Matter
So many people with wrinkled face and crooked body have more life in their eyes than the ones with young blood and painless joints. Death comes the moment you stop living, whether or not you are breathing.
Die Once Only
Death is inevitable and the ultimate truth of life. You have to face it one day and you should face it one day in one life only. Everytime you kill your dreams, no matter how small, you die a little. Every time you live up to someone else’s expectation while your own remains unanswered, you die a little. The one, final death kills your body, while these little deaths kill your soul.
Make the Unison of Life and Death a Happy One
Live life to the fullest. Take bad decisions and mend them. Make wrong choices and laugh at them. Fall down and learn to get up. Rest when you get tired but don’t stop. Life is too short to think too much about consequences. It’s too fragile to carry the weight of regret. It’s too stubborn to reason with. No matter what, it’ll seek death. So, make sure that when they meet, life has many tales to tell.
If living forever would have made one great, no great man would have died young. If an unlived life would satisfy the soul, no one would fear death. Make your life count in the limited days you have. Be afraid but have the zeal to face your fear. Die with a smile on your face and peace in your mind.
Let death be awestruck with the lightning that your soul is. Let life lose its grip with the knowledge that its course could not have been any more adventurous. Then, the unison of life and death will be blissful.
What are your thoughts on living such a life? Let us know about your way of living in the comment section. Now go ahead and live!