In a society where every child is taught, Charity begins at home, it is equally important for this generation to teach and show that Healing begins at home too.
The world we live in and the time we are in now is a great time to feel alive because every day people are coming together to break stereotypes, voice out for their rights and become a more inclusive society.
But this also means a lot of wounds and challenges. There are issues of being judged, abuse, name-calling and so on. To heal the world one must be healed in homes.
In this article, let’s explore the realm of healing and how it can enable us on the journey towards a better world.
What is Healing
As much as we care for the physical wounds, it is important to heal the psychological wounds as well. These wounds begin from childhood and are impacted by so many different situations.
Healing refers to attaining a place where the wounds do not bother you and you are ready to see through them. Healing also means you are no more impacted by that strange memory or the pain it brings.
Healing is required for everyone because all of us feel from our hearts and process emotions in our own way.
Healing involves coming to terms with our pains, the people who caused it and can go past that situation. It requires courage and effort to do it.
“The place of true healing is a fierce place. It’s a giant place. It’s a place of monstrous beauty and endless dark and glimmering light. And you have to work really, really, really hard to get there, but you can do it.”
― Cheryl Strayed
Healing is the Tool to Create a Peaceful World
Oftentimes people think that Healing therapy is all for people who go through a severe mental crisis but it is not true. Healing is for everyone.
Believe it or not, we carry wounds from the time we are in our mother’s womb. The emotions she feels and the pain she processes have a huge impact on the fetus inside. This also shapes the psychology of the baby.
When a child who has a very disturbed childhood grows up, the chances are very high for it to become abusive and depressed. When our hearts don’t heal, we end up in a war with our selves and others.
This is why families play a very crucial role in creating a happy society.
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”
― Helen Keller
There is hope and it starts from home.
7 Ways to Ensure Healing Begins at Home
1. Start from Childhood
Parenting is a huge term and holds the highest power in creating a beautiful society. The way we parent speaks volumes about the child. Children with angry, depressed parents feel lonely and rebellious.
Broken families breed violence and trauma in the minds of the child. Having a gentle approach to parenting like great communication, understanding things from the child’s perspective, using words instead of beating children and spending time with them helps so much to create a healthy childhood.
2. Great Friendships are a Great Support
Having a good friend who can listen to you without any judgments is a great support in healing. A family must allow the benefits of friendship for children from a young age.
At the same time, it is also important to be cautious about the kind of friends your child has.
“Part of the healing process is sharing with other people who care.”
― Jerry Cantrell
3. Hear with Open Hearts and Listen without Judgements
As humans, we often judge people and have our own set of prejudices that lead to hurting others. This is especially common in houses where traditional views on society are imposed. So we tend to miss out on the feelings our members’ process and look out for mistakes leaving them hurt.
This can be healed when we apologise and learn to respect them for what they are without any judgements.
When I got into college, I made a decision to cut my hair, did it and returned home. My haircut was really good but the relatives in my family were quick to judge and passed some hurtful comments. That stayed with me for a long time though I healed myself out of it.
4. Heal Yourself as the Journey to a Better World Starts from here
Healing starts from home and it starts right from you. You cannot heal your family until you have healed yourself. How to do it?
Self-awareness comes a long way in your psychic development. Know what hurts you, what triggers you and what makes you emotional. Start from there.
Talk to a therapist if you feel helpless, listen to music, use art as a medium to express what you feel and let it all out.
It might sound difficult but never impossible. I went through so many painful phases in life but I learnt to heal myself and keep my heart like a calm garden, undisturbed by the chaos outside.
One of the best resources I can share here is, How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera (the holistic psychologist). This book is a treasure for self-helpers and will be of great help on healing yourself and others.
5. Set a Happy, Calm Environment at Home
Indeed, our lives are very fast-paced but home is where we all connect deeply. Instead of having a stressful environment, bring in a positive calm vibe to your home.
You can start with decluttering your home. Take out everything you will not need. Also understand what is your need and what is your want, this way you will only have what you need.
More space brings in more positive energy and lets you think creatively. When a person feels creative, the mind is relaxed.
This way, everyone in the family will have a calm time.
6. Use Art to Heal
Art is a great medium to express your feelings. Be it painting, drawing, colouring, writing, cooking or creating anything new, it helps your mind to vent out what’s hurting you and you will feel better.
I recently worked on something called Cathartic writing, it is a piece where one can express their emotions in writing. I wrote about an incident from the past and it felt so light.
Likewise, use art to process your emotions. There are many art therapy courses that help you to learn and do this. As a family, it is possible to use art in healing.
For example, little kids often draw pictures that tell their state of mind. They draw a happy picture when happy and a sad face picture when they are sad. They have their coping mechanisms. Knowing what would work well for your family helps in the healing process.
7. Connect with Your Inner Child
This might sound strange but all of us have an inner child, a child version of us that is formed in our brains based on the experiences we encountered in our early years.
If you have had a bad experience when boating with your family at a young age, even after becoming an adult when you look at a boat ride, you will feel scared and pessimistic. That is your inner child.
But you need to remember it’s your brain reacting based on past experiences and you can calm it by taking control and reassuring it that you have grown up and this is safe.
Our inner child tends to have so many wounds based on the bitter experiences we encountered in life. Healing the inner child is important. This is a vast topic but worth investing your time and energy in.
There are so many inner child healing workshops available. Look for a credible one, understand the basics and begin your healing.
Create a Better World
Love, compassion, kindness and respect in families will result in happy responsible individuals who can create a better world.
I hope this article helps you to find inspiration and light even in the darkest times and helps you to start the process of healing at home.
Do you too think that the journey to a better world starts from home? Do you have any such stories to share on healing? We would love to hear from you.
May peace prevails.
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