Queen Latifah’s quote “Be bold, be brave enough to be your true self” makes us question ourselves about the way we led our lives. Most of us are very scared of getting out of our comfort zones and showing the world our true self. We lead our lives trying to please others. We do not show the world our authentic, true self. It may be one of the reasons why we do not achieve the levels of success we desire.
Courage is a tough virtue to cultivate. It is learned through many trial and errors in life. Most people are scared of being criticized. Criticism is viewed as a failure to satisfy people. But, a person can never satisfy everyone. People are different, and they may hold diverse opinions about any given subject.
Fear of Judgment
You are your biggest enemy. You are your worst critic. Relax and go easy on yourself. Showing your true self to the world would not make you vulnerable. It can help you get a higher degree of satisfaction in life. Other people’s opinions do not matter. Your opinion about you matters the most. You will have to stay with yourself forever.
Most people go through life trying to please others. They want others to like them or be proud of them. It can be a dangerous pattern of behaviour. It leads to unsatisfaction in life and loss of individualism. If you are not happy with yourself, no one else can be with you. People would think what they want to think regardless of what you do. Popular research shows that most people only think about themselves. They only remember things that are related to themselves. This fact immediately makes your worries irrelevant. Take people out of the equation and be your true self.
Be Honest with Yourself
The first step towards achieving your full potential is, to be frank with yourself. Understand what you need to improve on and what your fears are to act on them effectively. Be honest in your analysis and avoid being overly critical. Analyse the social constraints you have and then craft a way to overcome them. In order to be your authentic self to the world, it is important to know what is stopping you from achieving your goals. Every problem has a solution if you can figure out the cause.
Putting up a show for the world can be exhausting and very damaging to your psyche. You are going to live only once, hence do not try to please others. You may be able to fool others, but you can’t deceive yourself. Being a people pleaser can be excruciating; quit doing it and live a healthy life staying true to your conscience. Once you are honest with yourself; you can start being honest with others. Being bold enough to be your true self will earn you the respect of others. Only a very few individuals are brave enough to stand for their convictions. It automatically makes you more credibility in their eyes. Being your true self would not mean that you would stop making mistakes. It just means that your mistakes would be honest.
Let Go of Insecurities
Let go of all the insecurities that are holding you back. Have faith in yourself, take up challenges and develop along the way. When an attractive opportunity presents itself to you, be bold enough and take it. Only this can help you achieve long lasting happiness.
Your self-esteem and mental health are valuable. We all face uncertainties and are confronted with challenges in life. It doesn’t mean we should fear to be ourselves. Discomfort would help you achieve your power. Be brave and stand on your ground. If you want something, go for it with all your strength.
Written By: Sampurna Dutta